Great Courtships! Bad Marriages!! Why does this happen?

I was going to write on this subject but one evening, I thought to put this out on twitter and Facebook just as a feeler. The Facebook discussions have been most interesting surprisingly has now attracted some interesting responses. Please click to read that discussion.. (hope the link works) , otherwise just tell me and I will send it to you. Here is the link https://www.facebook.com/folarin.banigbe/posts/10152165455034947?comment_id=30470507&offset=0&total_comments=13&notif_t=feed_comment

Let me get back to the topic. Why do great relationships started in courtship go terribly bad once marriage is consummated? Is it that people marry the wrong spouses or that people didn't marry for love? What happens to love that makes it turn so sour after a while? My heart still contracts when I remember the guy who murdered his wife about 2 years ago. What is it that turns the most loving boyfriend to a murderous husband? Why do people who once were in love, begin to hate each other so? Why do people see marriage a prison to escape from?

This blog is about questions and questions and mostly not many answers at the moment. I hope we can jointly find answers to this burning question in my soul. There are too many marriages breaking. There are people I know who are living in hell in their marriage. There are people who almost wish they never said the  ' I do'. Are you one of them, or do you know someone who is? I will like to share your experiences on this issue. I have seen a number of marriages and I can boldly assert that most marriages are just being endured. Most people are frustrated in their marriages; some has taken the route of divorce and separation. Some others have stayed in the marriage but they have affairs on the side. Some say the stay because of the children or because of the stigma attached to a divorced parent. Most women regret they married who they have married.

I want to know, is it the women who mostly have regrets in marriage? What about the men? Do we bother that our wives are not the people we thought they were when we were dating. If you are afraid to put your name out, please post your comments as anonymous, or send them to me at folarin.banigbe@gmail.com and I will publish them.

Finally, how can we help marriages that are heading for the rocks to be established?. What happens to the love? I close with this song by Luther Vandross… Always and Forever

Always and forever

Each moment with you

Is just like a dream to me

That somehow came true, yeah

And I know tomorrow

Will still be the same

Cuz we got a life of love

That won't ever change and

Everyday love me your own special way

Melt all my heart away with a smile

Take time to tell me you really care

And we'll share tomorrow together

Ooh baby, I'll always love you forever

Ever, ever, ever

There'll always be sunshine

When I look at you

It's something I can't explain

Just the things that you do

If you get lonely

Call me and take

A second to give to me

That magic you make and

To listen, click here… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdhBorHldpE